Michelle Obama Has A Slip-Up By Telling A Crowd That “Sh*t Doesn’t Work All The Time”
By: Eboni Walker
Michelle Obama is known for giving some of the best advice to her fans.
At an event to promote her memoir Becoming, the former first lady told a crowded arena that ‘leaning in’ is not always the best thing to do.
“That whole ‘so you can have it all.’ Nope, not at the same time, That’s a lie. And it’s not always enough to lean in, because that shit doesn’t work all the time.”
The crowd erupted in laughter, surprised at Mrs. Obama’s language. Mrs. Obama seemed to be surprised at herself because she immediately apologized.
“I forgot where I was for a moment!” Mrs. Obama said. “I thought we were at home, y’all. I was gettin’ real comfortable up in here.”
The crowd of 19,000 laughed even more at Mrs. Obama’s statements.
Mrs. Obama then answered the question of why she decides to talk about the marriage counseling.
“People are like, ‘Oh, why’d she talk about marriage counseling?’ I’m like, ‘Duh.’ Marriage is hard, you know. It is hard . . . I love my husband, and we have a great marriage—and we’ve had a great marriage—but marriage is hard work.”
She then added how she believes young couples rush into marriage. “Marriage is a lot of work, and it should be. It’s two independent individuals who are trying to come together to build a life forever.”
She also added how children make things a lot harder in the marriage. “Kids are an interrupter; they mess it all up. Barack and I say that’s why they make ’em cute—’cause if they weren’t cute, you’d just leave ’em in a basket.”
According to The Huffington Post, the ‘leaning in’ idea began when Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg’ wrote the book, Lean In: Women, Work And The Will To Lend. In the book, it was argued that women could “have it all,” referring to family, career, and happiness if they worked hard enough.
But this method has been looked down upon because many people argue that it adds extremely too much pressure on women. Four years after the publication of the book, even Sandberg announced in an interview that maybe ‘leaning in’ wasn’t the best approach.
When asked by USA Today, if women were better off since the method of leaning in began, she answered:
“In terms of women in leadership roles, we are not better off. We are stuck at less than 6% of the Fortune 500 CEO jobs and their equivalent in almost every country in the world. There were 19 countries run by women when Lean In was published. Today there are 11. Congressional numbers have inched up a tiny bit. And so, overall, we are not seeing a major increase in female leadership in any industry or in any government in the world, and I think that’s a shame.
The Lean In Community is thriving, and that gives me hope that this will change in the future. We have 1.5 million members of our community, 33,000 circles in 150 countries, and we’re growing by almost 100 a week. And we know that when people join circles, the great majority of them will do something that is much more ambitious for themselves.
The fact that there is so much energy around equality around the world and the fact that so many women are in circles gives me hope that this will change in the future.”
Sandberg said in due time; she believes the message will work.
“My goal is very clear, and I wrote about it in Lean In, which is that women run half our companies and countries and men run half our homes. As much as I wish that could happen in four years, I don’t think that’s a likely time period. But I think it can happen sooner than we think.”
By: Eboni Walker | Instagram: EboniMWA | Twitter: EboniMWalker
Source: Huffington Post, USA Today