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Not All Heroes Wear Capes: A Black Woman Teaches A White Mother How To Do Her Adopted Black Daughters Hair

A Woman Shows A Pure Act Of Kindness By Lending A Helping Hand To A White Woman Trying To Her Adopted Black Daughters Hair

By: Eboni Walker

Stephanie Hollifield and her husband fostered a black seven-week-old baby two years ago.

The couple eventually adopted baby Haley. But as she got older, there was one thing the couple struggled, and that was Haley’s hair, which was coarse. So, Hollifield turned to her Facebook friends for help.

She uploaded a photo of Haley and wrote:
“This clueless white momma is humbly coming to you to ask your help with Haley’s hair. I have asked my friends. I have asked strangers in Publix with kids with cute hair, and I’m still not getting it. We wash once a week. We do the water, leave in conditioner, oil, and hot towel every morning. We’ve tried more products, no products, less products. We are gentle as can be, but she still requires at least 6 minutes of cuddles after the trauma of her daily hair combing. I feel like it looks great for about an hour or two and then it is tangly and clumpy again. This picture is 3 hours into the day. What am I doing wrong? I have literally bought every product that has been recommended to us. I desperately want to get this right!” 

Hollified ended up learning some new skills and gained a new friend.

She went back on Facebook to share the news.

“A couple of days ago, I posted to Facebook asking for advice on caring for my African American daughter’s hair. As a white mama, I was a bit lost. This lady, Monica Hunter, who I had never met in person before today, offered to come to my house and walk me through exactly how to style my daughter’s hair.”

Not only did Hunter offer her assistance, but she also brought along some much-needed hair accessories to make things a little easier.

“She gave us her time, advice, headbands, combs and hair product. She asked for nothing in return and wouldn’t accept my money. By the time she left I had a little more confidence in fixing my daughter’s hair, and most importantly I felt supported by my new friend.”

She also added how the kind act was so much more than a hair tutorial.

“In a time of so much hate and division, our world needs more people like this.”

Commenters loved the kind act of both women they left sweet messages underneath the picture.

“Wish more ladies were like she is… mother of a brown beauty as well! I do the best I can and make her as beautiful as she already is to me! Your child is a doll! Prayers and love to y’all. U can do this! I tell myself that when it gets tough. People don’t understand a simple ponytail takes a very long time,” one commenter wrote.

“Such a sweet woman to reach out and help. You never know when you are going to be given a wonderful new friend!”

“Three beautiful ladies. Thank you for sharing because this is how life should be. Helping our neighbors is our calling.”

“Thank You for your kindness, congratulations on the new friendship. Thank you mom, for asking for help, and Babygirl is Beautiful.”

“Great idea asking for help when I was. CASA I had a black foster mom asked me what to do with the white girl’s hair. I guess it goes both ways.”

“This lady Mrs. Hunter is amazing, she exudes kindness and goodwill. I met her at a kids Dance company last year and was absolutely clueless on how to do my daughter’s recital make up because my daughter and I are two different shades. She had no problem giving me advice and told me what colors to get and put on her. My daughter’s pictures came out STUNNING.”

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Source: Essence