Have YOU Regretted A One Night Stand? Men And Women Both Feel Bad After Casual Sex (But For Very Different Reasons)
Casual sex can fill many people with regret.
New research has found four out of five men, and even more women, have wished they had not acted on impulse after a one night stand.
But their reasons are very different, the study found, with men often wanting to avoid future contact with a sexual partner and women most likely to believe they had moved too fast.
Participants from Brazil, the US, Canada, and Norway – all under 30 – were asked if they had suffered from any negative emotions in the early stages of a relationship.
The international study is the first to show both sexes feel strong negative postcoital emotions.
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After a one night stand, both sexes can be concerned about their reputations and show remorse by trying to put their weakness behind them.
‘There’s nothing new about some people having negative feelings after sex,’ said co-author Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair, Professor of psychology at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology.
‘But why? How can something that starts out good result in such negative emotions?
‘The sexual act itself can reinforce the ties between the parties if the right hormones are triggered.
‘But for the partner who gains the most from moving on to other potential short-term partners, it more often triggers a feeling of distance instead.’
He added men on average wanted to leave to a greater degree than be intimate after sex.
‘Women gain from having quality rather than quantity,’ he said.
‘They want the man to stay to a greater extent. This preference applies on a group level, and obviously not to everyone.
‘In Norway, sex for the sake of sex is more accepted here.
‘We can speculate that this is due to a greater level of sexual equality and sexual liberation.’