And, as many broken-hearted lovers posting in one Reddit thread reveal, not even the suspicion of cheating could have prepared them for the shock of that revelatory moment when their partner’s infidelities were confirmed. And for those who admit to being completely blind-sided by the heartbreak, things were even worse.
In the thread, men and women responded to the question: ‘How did you find out your S.O. was cheating?’
Flowerbright had the news come straight from the mouth of her man’s mistress in a less-than ideal setting:
Redefine_happy found out when she received an initially-confusing anonymous letter in the mail.
‘I received a letter in the mail from a college I never went to. Weird….
‘Inside, I found the entire texting history between my now ex-husband and his lover. I have determined that the sender was most likely the lover herself or her scorned husband (local police officer). Added bonus: At the time, I was seven months pregnant.’
One anonymous user accidentally learned he was being cheated on by his girlfriend thanks to her own phone mishap – as they dt on an airplane about to embark on a long-haul journey.
‘Just got on a flight in London headed to Vegas. Sitting next to my [girlfriend] and she wants to show me something she has planned for the trip so gets out her phone.
‘It opens to the messages and shows a chat with a guy (I know him) saying how much she is gonna miss him and how she doesn’t wanna go away with me anyway. The doors close on the plane and that was a really f***ing fun 10-11hrs…’
Sneaking a peek at a phone message – or in some cases discovering ‘hours of sexting’ – seemed to be the most common way that affairs have been discovered, according to the thread. And, in this guy’s case, it was the phone bill.