When A Man Wants To Be In A Relationship After The First Date Is It Flattering Or Scary? These Women Tell Their Stories…
If you think it’s only men who are being pressured to “Put A Ring On It” think again! More women than ever are complaining that men are trying to lock them down, some as soon as the first date. Karen, who is an accountant, said two of the last three men she’s gone on dinner dates with have asked her to meet their families and even suggested marriage…one the first date! Some would think this kind of offer would be an honor but when it happens too soon it can be a red flag.
“That’s not a compliment to me,” Karen said. “When a man offers to introduce you to his mama on the first, second, or third date, it comes off as desperate. I’m thinking to myself, I don’t even know you dude.”
But the pressure to meet the parents isn’t the only problem, some men are already talking marriage before the entree’ is served. Lisa, who is divorced with two young children, had this to say.
“Whatever happened to dating first? I need to get to know you before we can even entertain the idea of having a relationship. I find that most of these men have been hurt before or they’re looking for a place to stay. Here in Atlanta men pray on women with nice cars and homes.”
It’s obvious that men have issues too. And although I don’t think most of these guys are being disingenuous, I do think men are finding out it’s more difficult to find a quality woman than they thought, however most of them don’t discover this until they stop playing games in their late forties and fifties. And when they finally make contact they’re desperate to take her off the market before someone else scoops her up.
But here’s where it gets interesting, more women are preferring to stay single, live alone and have sex without commitment. It seems that now that men are finally waking up women are ready to step out.
The best advice I can give to men is to relax, enjoy the companionship and let the woman choose you. Forcing the issue will only make her run for the hills. That’s right, women are just as hesitant as men to jump into a relationships or marriage. Talk about flipping the script!
~ Michael Baisden